Who Decides What Is Truth??
Only your opinion matters on this topic.
What if someone disagrees with your truth? What if they have a different truth?
You were in the SAME situation, and conversation with them. But their experience, memory and recall of the event and conversation are ENTIRELY different than yours.
Great! Their truth is truth too. You are both “right”. You are both speaking truth.
You see, we each have a unique perspective. We each look through our own eyes, and filter the incoming information with our own lens. Your lens is crafted by your DNA strands. It is coded into your cells. Passed on from your ancestors. Then you color the strands and hone the angles of your inner prism. And through YOU – you as crystalline grid structure – you filter and direct the code of life in your own image. With your every deed, word, thought…YOU ARE the CREATOR of your REALITY. You are the speaker of the code, the reader of the code, the cipher, and the singer of the song of your life.
We are in a time of massive polarity, and of divergent truth paths. There are so many situations that are so incredible polarized, and each “side” is staunch in their stance. We take a step back, give everyone space to BE. To BE right. For them. TO be in the field of vibrational reality that is real and true and a good match. And the super cool thing is, we can have multiple realities existing simultaneously and coexisting peacefully. Living in a pluralistic reality means that I can feel and think and believe what I know to be true. And you can do you and do the same. And we do NOT have to agree. We can both be “right”. Being in the unity field, and in the flow of life, means that we can hold space for differing viewpoints. With kindness and respect.
I had a very “interesting” exchange today. That I am happy and proud to say I handled very well. It is a benign easy to share example, and it gave me a BIG “ah-ha” moment today. Which inspired me to write up this post.
My hair has been getting super long, and was kinda driving me coo coo since March. I am a once a year haircut kinda gal. I cut it kind of shortish in the summer and then let it grow out until the next summer. I was excited to get a cut this week, and get a fresh feel.
I sent the stylist a picture of my most favorite haircut ever, prior to our appointment, so we did not have to spend time on that during the covid protocols and such. And asked her to replicate that look. When I got there in person, she told me…”no, that is not what you want” – and said a bunch of things like “I always tell my clients what to do with their hair and I am always right”. She was kinda tongue in cheek joking on that one, but she kinda meant it too - and in general pressured me to just get a trim and I was feeling awkward and got her to agree to doing it an inch or so shorter than she wanted, but it was a big push by me the whole way. And she was super tense the whole time with the all of the protocols and the spraying stuff down and the masks and all of that. So I tried to “go with the flow” in the moment. Truth is, it is still too long for me, and I want it cut shorter. I texted her today to say that I was disappointed in the cut I received, and asked if she could sneak me in for a quick fix and cut 2 more inches off the back. I told her that I wanted what I initially had asked for and did share that I was unsatisfied with the current length.
She came back with a pretty gruff somewhat nasty text reply. Telling me I was a liar and I was not telling the truth right now and that I should look for another stylist. I was honestly flabbergasted. And had a cascade of emotions flood through me. Speaking truth and being fair is very important to me. Always has been. I was kind of horrified and so wanted to defend myself. But then I did a good job of stepping back, and asking – what is the deeper thing here for me to see?? And it came pouring in….who gets to decide what is truth??? Bing bing bing!
There have been several things like this that have occurred for me in the last few weeks. I am grateful that my soul chose a benign thing like a haircut for this “lesson” this time. I have certainly been kicked in the ass harder with this kind of thing in the past. I did have that momentary victim ping to “I am being gaslighted here” and “How can she not say something like, oh, I am sorry I made you feel that way, it was not my intention at all, let me fix it”.
I honestly expected it to go like that. But sometimes, it does not go that way. We use the term distortion to describe a communication like this. Where there is a disconnect in the communication stream. One big thing that is “up” right now is clearing distortions from the field. So things like this are very prevalent for all of us.
I have had several conversations with friends who have had similar instances where speaking up for oneself was called up. Where setting a clear and forceful boundary and establishing a strong neutral perimeter was a HUGE important lesson. I will have 4 or 5 friends read this and will think that I am talking about them. And they will all be “right”. And they each will be viewing this from their lens, and they all will be “of truth”.
Who gets to decide what is TRUTH? You DO!!
We can disagree and hold viewpoints that are not the same and both be “in the right”. Furthermore, we can be kind to each other and have a clear communication about it with mutual respect. Let’s code that into the New Earth paradigm that is unfolding right now!
Free to BE YOU and ME!